Living in peoples' world

i am realising that i am trying to please others at the expense of my limitations.

Eg: whatever my mum wanted me to do, i tend to agree to help her, fearing that she would scream, criticise me.

At work, i tend to follow the footsteps of how my local partners style of work, otherwise i fear i cannot get the work and my KPI done.

With my life partner, this is the same. I would try my best to accomodate her.  Getting her wedding band, marriage ring and wanting to rent a room with her where my gross salary is only 3k per month.

As i sit in my room today without any interference, i am thinking why did i allow other people to control me and making me such a useless person?